Circle Of Friends

I was born in 1983….wooohhh..i feel like a dinosaur now…when we grew up we were very familiar with an author called Maeve Binchy who wrote beautiful novels( but not mushy..i really hate love stories..the mills & boons ones) set in Dublin, Ireland. She still writes and I hope the young adults read them. One of her most famous works is Circle of Friends..which even got made into a successful film…don’t remember the starcast..excuse an old woman who does not remember and too lazy to google it.

I am not here to write a critique of that piece of literature.This is an ode to my circle of friends. The ecstasy, agony, jealousy, celebration which bind the circle or break it.

Friends are like diamonds…they are forever, they become addictive, and once they fall apart even the best craftsman can’t put them back without deforming the original beauty even if it’s minuscule. In today’s time friendship has become easy. It’s just a friend request away. Old acquaintances become new friends and the old friends suffer the new acquaintances. Yes I said suffer because these old friends might not be comfortable with the public display of friendship because to many true friendship is very very personal and they drift apart. In the virtual world finding a good friend is very rare because when the window to friendship is limited to a electronic connection only, the karmic connection might not happen. But yes, sometimes out of nowhere a true connection does happen more with one’s own spiritual twin on the other side of the virtual window leading to a beautiful introspection and discovery. These are not to be lost but treasured.

We are told that it is the childhood friends who the best friends because they are formed completely on a non-selfish platform. True. But it’s not always one’s fault that the childhood friend you should have met in your childhood comes to find you only when you are 22. Then share the separate childhood and grow, evolve with each other .Grow old together instead of just growing up. Very few people in the world would shelter you against the evil without declaring so, very few will cry with you when you cry and very few will support you when you need a shoulder and often it is not your partner but your matured friend. Today friends who start out together in the process of growing up due to competition and comparison lose their innocence of friendship. The so called best-pal of school is made to look upon the person to beat in studies and even in extra-curriculum activities. With age, adolescence, changing environment friends change, their need for a specific friendship change. Friendship is suddenly formed on the basis of who is more useful to us. But when you have a friction of a second to look back, this was not how it was supposed to be right? This was one relationship which was supposed to be simple and without compromises on both sides. You find yourself with loads of great acquaintance but no real friends. Reason ?Real friendship never ceases to be so inspite of ups and downs, highs and lows,
So when you meet a person who is stable, grown up and settled while you are the same is not a threat but a boon. Lucky are the ones who find each other in the second phase of youth because together they ward off each other’s evils, bring in luck for each other, spread love, laughter , cheer and share that roadside tea when they can’t afford that big cappuccino at a fashionable coffee shop at month end. Years later these are the friends who in crowded room of unknown people can spread familiarity cause they know each other so well that all fears of unknown subside when they are together.

Circle of friends need not be a big circle . It can be a straight line between just two people with many tally marks and broad grins. When I read the books eons ago it was just a work of fiction. It was only when I found mine that I believed in it.
You become a better person when you meet this one person who makes you feel safe, secured and never judges you and always tells you life is beautiful.

When you meet do not matter in friendship, what matters is that you have met. And don’t ever let go when you have founded you. It is the biggest solitaire you can possibly show off.